Saturday, April 08, 2006
I? am a perverse bitch.
That's all there is to it. I've been moaning and whining about wanting to be in a relationship, wanting to find that someone special, and bemoaning that I'll never find someone, blah, blah, blah. Last weekend, while I was online at the dating site, some guy wanted to IM with me. Normally, I act like a chicken shit, decline the invitation, and log off immediately. This time, I decided to accept, and IM'd with this guy for a while. He wanted to move over to yahoo IM, so fine, we did that. He wanted to call me on the phone, so I gave him my cell phone number. He called me, and I didn't say much. I take it by spells - sometimes you can't get me to shut up, but for the most part, I'm rather quiet. I figured I wouldn't hear from him again. I was wrong. He called me Thursday morning. I missed the call because I left my phone at home. He emailed me through the site that he had tried to call. Wanted to know if he could call me that night. He didn't call that night, but did call again Friday morning. I missed that call because I was in the shower. But I called him back, and we talked for maybe a minute or two as I was driving to work. We were both online last night, and IM'd for a while, and then he called me, and we were on the phone for almost an hour. He has called me 4 times today. He thinks we would be very compatible. He is willing to relocate. He finds me attractive. I think he's nice looking. I think he's probably a really nice guy, and would be fun to cuddle with. I want to run like hell.
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If someone were willing to relocate for me, based on an online profile and a couple phone conversations, I'd want to run like hell too.
*points up*
What Bob said.
Unless, his version of relocation is moving 30 minutes or so.
Yeah, ummm... I think he's moving a little too fast. Perhaps he's trying to run like hell from something in his current location.
Yeah. Trust your gut. The vast majority of people willing to relocate on such short notice have reasons to relocate, and none of them are good.
I agree with everyone else. He's moving way too fast, no wonder you feel like running.
I say trust your gut. Keep talking to him, but let what you feel lead you a little.
I learned that if you are too over cautious something might pass you by.
Before CSTL, I would never have given my number out to anyone online. I most certainly would not have met them. But we ended up engaged after just meeting each other 4 times. Crazy, yes, but IT was there and was something we both could not deny.
But still be careful, but don't be too careful that you might miss something.
I'm interested in how the topic of relocation came up. It does seem a bit early unless you guys have been having some really deep conversations of have been in contact if not having met for a while. Sometimes people just know but if you really like him, just tell him to slow down a bit so you two can get to know each other better.
Meh. I'm already feeling smothered. Like I said, he called 4 times yesterday. I missed the first call, the 2nd call I told him I was getting ready to go out for a while, so he says he'll talk to me later. He calls back in 5 minutes to ask if I'm upset with him. He called again that afternoon. I decided I really wasn't feeling sociable this morning, so when he called, I let it roll over to my voice mail. He has called 3 more times since then. I have let it go to voice mail each time. I mean, we're just getting to know each other! Do we have to speak to each other EVERY day???
As far as the topic of relocation, he is looking for a relationship. Which I sort of am, too. I think it's too soon to discuss relocation, (especially since we haven't even met face to face yet), but he brought it up. Just flat out, he can relocate. He lives an hour north of Atlanta, so he's around 5 hours away from me.
There are some other things that he shared with me, that I'm not going to put here, but they are also throwing up some red flags.
That sounds utterly smothering. Like Syren says, being open to new experiences and people is good. One also has to be realise you can say no.
7 calls in one day to someone you hardly know?
Freaky, run, run.
Oh gosh, I agree with everyone. Someone that eager to move, that eager to talk sends flags up for me too. He could just be lonely, but I see a very smoothering relationship with this guy.
Some people like to be smoothered. Me not so much but then my Dbf is the smoothering type also.
Have you tried to calm down his attitude, like being blunt and saying - I enjoy talking to you but you seem a little too eager.
I agree with everyone else, and want to second Lasann's recommendation for bluntness.
Guys like this require clear and very blunt communication to get the message.
Agree with everyone.
Be honest with him. Don't ignore him hoping he'll go away.
Ack. He lives in my neck of the woods *looks around office*
Yup, that guy is way too eager. That alone would make me wonder: "Does he want to be in a relationship WITH ME?" or "Does he just want to be in a relationship, any relationship?"
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